My parents don't use it in public but they know its a slur
They also won't even let me say dum, stupid, or heck even though everyone uses them

Yea my parents say the r word too
I told them its a slur and they were just like "oh" aND THEY CONTINUED TO FUCKING USE IT
THEY USE IT IN PUBLIC TOO 🗿

Yes

Or they say WHAT THE F IS WRONG WITH YOU sometimes to me