I see your having a appearance versus identity crisis, well I can’t really do much with my honesty, cuz I can’t see or hear you, but let me tell yeah, you are way more masculine than me and my dad combined, if you want you can just, you know, work out I guess if wanna be a man, but there’s a difference between begin a man, and begin a boy, boys have the annoying character with a bit of muscle, while men(I’m not being sexist, no one take this sexist, and I also find men and boys extremely stupid(no offense boys and men)) are wise, my dad is not a guy or boy, yes, but he is a man, and I think that’s what I think counts.
But don’t listen to my stupid ass probably bias words, I’d say just find your own path, a wise man once told me, important things like this get figure itself out, but only if you try.