My response to 🌹𝑇ℎ𝑒𝑆𝑡𝑖𝑘𝑏𝑜𝑡𝐾𝑖𝑑🌹‘s post (pt. 1)

Okay, so here are my raw, fresh thoughts on what you said. I don’t want to sugarcoat this saying, “oh it’s fineeee! Think about yourself for a while, take a break, we’re all here for you!” You asked for my honest opinion, and here it is.
Now, I’m not too involved with the community. My whole reason for me joining last year is to improve my drawing and animation skills, not to get into any drama, but I feel like I need to say this. You asked if I think you are truly a good person. I don’t have the right to tell you that. I don’t know you as a human being. I don’t know your history on this site, I never met you in person, so I don’t have a say in that matter. But even so, this is still a slippery slope to talk about. You need to balance your own opinions about yourself along with others. You shouldn’t be totally codependent on other’s validation for you as a human being, but you shouldn’t be so ignorant that you ignore the flaws about yourself that other people criticize. Also, You talk about how much you try to help people, and that’s good. It’s nice to know that you motivate people and make them turn a new leaf. However, you have to take care of yourself first. I know that it’s a cliché thing to say, but it’s true. You aren’t responsible for another person’s problems. You can’t force someone to get help. There is only so much you can do for another human being. You are not their therapist. You are your own being with your own problems, and you can’t just magically solve anyone else’s problems. It may sound harsh, but it’s true. And I think it’s good for you to walk away knowing you tried to help, to accept that your advice didn’t save another person. You’re not going to be this perfect specimen of a human being, you’re not going to get along with everyone. You will make mistakes, and that’s going to be inevitable. You don’t have to know who you are, you don’t have to know if you are a good person or not. That’s the whole point of life, to find who you are, discover and develop your personality, to become a better person. Also, fans. Now, it’s not like I have any fans, so I can’t really give you first-hand advice on that. However, if a “fan” calls you a god or something like that, call them out on that. It may sound harsh, but it’s not only healthy for you, it’s also healthy for them. People shouldn’t have an unhealthy obsession with another human being, and if people call you that, that’s 100% a red flag. You can’t make them unfollow you, you can’t make them do anything, but simply calling them out might get them back to their senses. Also, another type of “fan” you talked about was the ones who make you draw fan art of them. This one is a little bit more tricky, because you can’t really see the red flag when they ask you to draw them. Sometimes it’s just someone who really likes your arts style, and wants oh to notice them, which by itself isn’t really a terrible thing. However, like you said, there are types of “fans” that use that to gain their own popularity. The best suggestion I can give you for that is that if you see them going on and bragging about it or something, call them out. Basically, call any fans out if they show red flags of unhealthy obsessions or using it for their own fame, and call them out specifically, don’t mention the mayor it’s, because that most likely won’t work. Of course, don’t encourage your fans to attack them, just let them know that what they’re doing isn’t cool. I don’t want to make this too long, so I’m dividing this in parts. Stay toned for the next one.

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