Opinions that invalidate a person's gender identity are invalid. Jen thinks the neopronouns that might sound sexual are invalid because those words have been sexualized a lot. It does not matter, that is how the person expresses themself with their pronouns. She didn't change Jordan's design and personality until she was attacked for it, because fetishizing gay men is disgusting. I need you to understand that Jen's actions and opinions are gross, you need to stop being biased because of your friendship with her and look at this situation through our eyes.