That's actually horrible that counselor should be fired. I'm so sorry, I know you said you tried and I don't know much abt your home life but you should sit with your mom and talk about how much this is affecting you. It's gonna be ok
I told her I was aromantic and she said "ur making things up to get attention go to your room and don't tell me random shit damn it* and I got sad cuz I thought I didn't belong